Somewhat Simple Sunday

Good News

So today was relatively quiet. 8 loads of laundry took me from 8:30 to about 4:30... doh! So I had PLENTY of time to yap. Bus Snob called and I got to hear ALL about a great new relationship she's beginning to build with a person she really likes. It really is awesome to share happy things. :)

Trouble Back Home

Then I called Radish back from her message last night... we yapped about stuff in general, and about her concern and exasperation for another of our close-knit group also there in San Diego near her. I'll call our friend Halloween Nut, cuz she absolutely adores Halloween. In fact, that's the reason I'm visiting over that particular holiday, so I can spend it with her. The three of us (and a few others) once had a blast putting together a Halloween scene and maze (of sorts) in her folks' front yard one year... just before I joined the Navy and left Cali, actually.

Amway, Halloween Nut unfortunately battles bouts of depression on a regular basis. I'm so proud of her for what she's been able to achieve... independence (with some govt. assistance) raising two kids on her own... in a not-so-cheap town to live in. But she was deeply hurt when her husband left her about four years ago, and she's still learning how to recover from that. And she's makin a lot of natural mistakes in the process. It's hard to pick up and trust again... and even to let go of her ex, whom she loved very much and is still a part of her life in respect to the children.

Difficult Lessons

I SO understand her feelings of not necessarily wanting to be alone, but not knowing how to trust. It effects so many aspects of your life and how you interact with the opposite sex. It's hard, and all you can do is survive and figure out how to grow and learn from the experience... and to stop letting it hurt. And then figure out how to move back into an equal balance cuz you've gone from hurt to hate.

How Do You Stand By?

And I also know how hard and frustrating it is for Radish... watching friends make decisions that can only hurt themselves and not making any forward progress at all. But ultimately, only they can find her own way... IN their own way. You can help support them and give them advice, but nothing will make the change except what's inside of them.

I feel for both of my friends. I think I'm gonna try to give Halloween Nut a call later this week. I guess there was a minor blow-up between them this weekend, so she may need to talk.

So much for being anti-social. :)