Back in Touch with the Nut

So I finally talked to Halloween Nut... last week, I think. We caught up in chat during the day, and I promised to call her that evening. She wasn't there, but DID call me back later that night. It was a good phone call. She's feeling somewhat isolated by circumstances... like the odd duck out. I'm not sure if her feelings of being pressured into living a more conforming lifestyle are self-induced, or if there are those around her really applying that pressure... even if unconsciously.

But I understand how she feels. My own lifestyle is hardly a typical one... at least I don't think so. I don't feel the need to pursue the whole Married with Children scenario. Neither am I driven by a career. I'm just happy to meander through life and see what I see as I go along. The most male contact I have in my life is at work and with my father... and I'm pretty happy keeping it that way. For now, anyway. When I feel otherwise inclined, I'll do something to change that circumstance.

I suppose it's hard for some peeps to understand that, though. I've discovered that it seems to be human nature to want others to have what you have if it makes you happy. Peeps assume that since it's good for them, it MUST be good for everybody else, too. I dunno how many of my friends have resolved to hook me up with somebody... simply because they, themselves, suddenly found themselves happily married.

Ah well... I'm glad that I'm here to provide a (questionably?) positive example of living outside the mold. I'm not sure I really helped H.N. feel any less of an Odd Duck... but at least she knows she's not the only one. :)